The Problem of Polyamorous Expectations

Vecellio.Titian.The.loversBy Todd Vickers and Sharon Dalzell

The angst often associated with relationships may not be because a damn thing is wrong, but because the events are different than our expectations. The ability to let go of ideals … Read More

How to Let Go of Sexual Customs – Be Bold

Kings.ClergyThe honor we pay to fictional ideas about love and sex is simply customary, like the undeserved deference our ancestors felt they must pay to king and clergy. These ideas, even when false, have real power. Some … Read More

The Polyamorous Caravan – Part Two

Huguet_A-Caravan-Crossing-The-DesertMany non-traditional folks carry conclusions that seem to rest on bias left over from tradition. For example, in a recent piece, Louisa Leontiades discussed applying the lessons of open relationships to monogamous relationships. I agree with her … Read More

The Polyamorous Caravan – Part One

Benwell_Caravan-with-the-Pyramids-and-Sphinx-beyondIn sexual relationships, consider the anguish of those that try everything they learned to do in order to succeed and still suffer. People often attempt what their contemporaries and therapists suggest, to create lasting relationships. Regardless … Read More

Can Casual Sex Be Loving? Yes, It Can.

Sexual DiscoveryI am not saying that all casual sex is loving any more than I would say the same about all marriages. Our society’s blind spots around sex are worse because we tend to trust customs and … Read More

Female Ejaculation – Learning to Squirt

HeelsAs soon as we’d ordered lunch at the local Japanese restaurant I launched into my story of the week. “I’ve just discovered female ejaculation.”

Sonja rolled her eyes slightly, “Oh yes. Men really get off on that … Read More

Prostitution can be bad, neutral, or good!

NudeOur society suffers an epidemic of people seeking their own ends at the expense of others. Do not exclude the everyday folks outside of public view. Workaday people can make decisions or carry out boardroom … Read More